tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5170053226003896528.post5507838692658607396..comments2023-06-11T08:37:38.687-05:00Comments on Elliott Family: Sugar and spice...uh, are we sure about that???The Elliott Familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06233413855598450589noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5170053226003896528.post-70817635738851836682008-02-15T14:29:00.000-06:002008-02-15T14:29:00.000-06:00Hi, I just happened upon your blog today and wante...Hi, I just happened upon your blog today and wanted to share...I have a very spirited 3 year old son, I have found the books "The Spirited Child" and "Strong Willed or Dreamer" to be very helpful. Also, very practical is "How to Talk so Kids will Listen, and Listen so Kids will Talk"- many of these books are targeted at kids slightly older, but really truly there is a lot you can apply to any age. And it is nice to be one step ahead as they enter the next developmental stage instead of frantically looking when desperation calls:) Stay strong, love her with all your heart for who she is, and remember patience (I know how hard that can be). I remember something I read once that really resonated with me and helps me stay calm when I want to pull all my hair out and it was something like this: all the qualities that we admire in adults such as determination, vision to reach goals, strength of character, and leadership abilities are the qualities that we find hardest to parent (ie they translate into stubborness, persistance, bullheadedness, bossy- or some variation of these)-- so stay strong, focus on her strenths and remember she will be one amazing woman one day with parents like you who love and support her.foreverisamomenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02899206401281046483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5170053226003896528.post-1078201437656017942008-01-28T14:27:00.000-06:002008-01-28T14:27:00.000-06:00Hi - we're another family from Georgetown adopting...Hi - we're another family from Georgetown adopting from Ethiopia through Gladney. We heard about you through the Yahoo group. Our blog is justinandkendall.blogspot.com. Your daughter is adorable!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5170053226003896528.post-26422145718590894442008-01-25T11:19:00.000-06:002008-01-25T11:19:00.000-06:00Hang on and just outlast her! That is my best advi...Hang on and just outlast her! That is my best advice. And when you pick the battle you have to WIN the battle, so pick and choose wisely. Of course, when our daughter first came home at 22 months some of the battles she picked were over silly things like hairbows! Looking back though I really think it was more to make sure we were going to "handle" things and she could just relax and be a kid. We made it so she had to let us parent her. That wa a tough concept for one who was sooo independent. <BR/>I too like 123 magic and it's amazing that simply counting to 3 lets them know you are serious. <BR/>Oh, and buy some good earplugs!<BR/>Blessings<BR/>DarcyDarcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05725076504039848637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5170053226003896528.post-1061847053733883102008-01-24T21:51:00.000-06:002008-01-24T21:51:00.000-06:00Hi and thanks for stopping by my blog. A great boo...Hi and thanks for stopping by my blog. A great book amoung the 5 news ones I bought...was Adoptive Parenting. This is by far the best purchase I have made and gives examples of all the parenting approaches and then throws in there how to do it with "the adoption twist" so that if fits what our kids need based on being adopted. I also love love and logic and if you call them they are a great resource. They suggested "When Love Is Not Enough", I bought it and it too is very good, short and easy to sweep through and then be more thorough when you have time!<BR/>Smiles,<BR/>jen in MII WOULD GATHER CHILDRENhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11615154563908650471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5170053226003896528.post-75927753474312163122008-01-24T12:58:00.000-06:002008-01-24T12:58:00.000-06:00Hey there pal-o-mine!Sorry ... don't have any advi...Hey there pal-o-mine!<BR/>Sorry ... don't have any advice for you, but I wholly agree that you don't try to reason with a 2 year old, or a 3 year old ... maybe by the time they are 4 they get it. Honestly, they don't care about the reason .. they just want what they want! I hate it when my kids ask "why?" They don't care about why .. it's just an opening for an argument. Take it from the mother of a 20 year old who has been down that path!<BR/><BR/>Kali doesn't get it either that she can't do/have what Carson does/has because she is a year and a half younger. He is starting to read now and likes to sound out words. Then she'll do the same thing and has no idea what she is doing. It's cute and irritating all at the same time. Can't wait to see what happens in August when he starts "big kids school" and she doesn't get to go with him!<BR/><BR/>Hang in there. I'm running to Barnes & Noble tomorrow to get that book too!<BR/><BR/>B.The Page Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17877025412509685111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5170053226003896528.post-50530309285576135912008-01-24T11:49:00.000-06:002008-01-24T11:49:00.000-06:00Hi, Rachel!We are dealing with some of the same is...Hi, Rachel!<BR/>We are dealing with some of the same issues - I have two VERY different kids and they are both very strong-willed! I worry that they will resent each other - already my daughter tells me I'm not fair and my son tells me I'm not fair :-( At least they agree on that! I'm going to check out the 123 Magic series - this is the second time I've read raves about it. We are talking about getting together a group with slightly older kiddos and compare notes! I'll try to email you!<BR/>CarolCarolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629357280046604067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5170053226003896528.post-62689929812459499512008-01-23T20:18:00.000-06:002008-01-23T20:18:00.000-06:00My best advice is 123 Magic. It is a younger versi...My best advice is 123 Magic. It is a younger version of Love and Logic. The secret is little to no emotion with clearly laid out expectations and of course lots of praise for good behaviors. I have an adopted 8 year old daughter that came to live with me at 2 1/2 years old. I think she and Piper must be kindred spirits. She displayed many similar behaviors- defiance, anything to get her way. She did everything she could to control her out of control life. Now she still loves control and even tonight we had battle over homework, but overall she is a well adjusted almost 9 year old sweet and happy little girl. You're doing a great job- don't losoe heart!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com